(Pictured: Peterson, left, and Christine, right) An exciting new website was launched this week that helps people who have been harmed by the ex-gay ministries and also tells the stories of these victims. The entrepreneurial venture was started by comedian Peterson Toscano and former ex-lesbian Christine Bakke.
"In the fight against the 'ex-gay' myth there has been a real void in reaching out to former ex-gays and giving them the tools and love they need to heal," said Truth Wins Out Executive Director Wayne Besen. "Beyond Ex-Gay will accomplish this, as well as tell the moving stories of survivors. The site will serve as a bank of testimonies that will help all of us in our efforts to expose this hoax."
"My dream, of course, is to have an alternative to the messages from Exodus, to see people heal from their ex-gay experiences, and to deter people from experiencing something that is often emotionally and spiritually harmful," said Bakke.
The site is visually appealing, offers depth on the topic and an abundance of resources to help people escape the ex-gay trap. There will also be a survivors conference sponsored by Beyond Ex-Gay and SoulForce (June 29-July 1) at the University of California Irvine. Truth Wins Out urges all former ex-gays to attend. Remember, there is strength in numbers. Congratulations to everyone involved with this fine effort.
I am a subscriber to Glamour magazine. I just got the issue featuring Christine. Amazing. I've been friendly with Christine for a few years now, but this was a very intimate and clear article. Whenever I read something like that, this is where the personal testimonies make me more and more sympathetic to the gay person. Christians who prefer to be reactionary, are blinded by their own feelings, and perhaps they lack a certain degree of intelligence to be able to be able to give a self examination? I'm just wondering. It's not that hard to lean on one's belief system as a way out of deeper thought and openness. Or maybe it's a lack of courage. I don't know. It's not surprising that gay people would be the most vulnerable to this, so the most drawn in by the promises made.
However, I find much comfort in those who are true to themselves, therefore they can be true to others. This is the greatest base for mutual trust and understanding. This is why ex gays, strike me as untrustworthy. There is a wall that has come down between them and others. They don't trust their true sexuality enough, and they don't trust themselves WITH IT.
So, in this, I can't believe that whatever relationships they have can be called built on anything solid. I am proud for Christine that she opened up her experience to Glamour. It's actually a good magazine that takes women seriously. But one can also say that virtually every glossy magazine out there gives some kind of education or social philosophy or illustration of sex and how to deal with it on whatever level.
It seems to me, young gay people...and ex gays, are caught in the void where there is no reality. Or empathy and respect for who and what you are and what you can do with your sexuality that will be satisfying and healthy.
I would rather all people were respected this way. The sad part is, gays and lesbian adults are treated like children. They are to remain without sex lives and married status, just like children. And adults cannot and shouldn't be made to do that. It's too weird.
posted by Regan, at
4/07/2007 12:55 PM